Sunday, January 31, 2010

Fur Kids and Animal Responsibility

I promise this post has a point. If you don't want to read about my animals, skip this post. If you don't want to read about animal responsibility, just read to the part where I talk about my dog. If you turn off the Sarah McLaughlin commercials because you've already rescued an animal, spayed or neutered it and it makes you sad, you can also skip this.

Olivia (left), Allistaire (right)

Allistaire and Olivia are my 4-year old kitties. After volunteering with the humane society in high school and working to rehabilitate feral cats who were going to be euthanized (who eventually became the happiest kitties ever in my parents household), I knew I wanted to adopt feral cats who would otherwise not be adoptable. Feral cats can be domesticated if you adopt them young enough, but it takes a ton of patience and work. My husband and I would sit for hours on the floor with chicken baby food to try to get them to come out from hiding and come near us. To this day, they're extremely wary of strangers, but great with me and my husband. 


We got Eleanor from a woman whose dog had mistakenly gotten pregnant and was giving away the litter of puppies. She's the most expensive free dog I've ever known. Between allergies, stomach problems, anxiety, training, doggie daycare and the eating of objects which are not meant to be eaten, we've spent more money than we've ever spent on ourselves. We could have taken 10 trips to Hawaii in the 2 years we've had her. 

Ellie is a lab/rhodesian ridgeback mix, and is the perfect blend of the hyperactive, bad toddler lab and territorial ridgeback. Despite her issues, she's extremely lovable, expressive, funny and wonderful. She's the best practice for a child I could have ever asked for. 

Why am I randomly posting about my fur kids? Not to sound like a Sarah McLaughlin-themed commercial (which you know you ALWAYS change the channel for because it's so sad), but so many people give away their animals and don't think of the consequences. Volunteering for Labrador Rescuers was one of the saddest and most rewarding experiences of my life. In addition to helping at adoption events and checking homes of potential families, I was in charge of answering all of the emails of people looking to adopt. I also had to deal with the people who were getting rid of their dogs. Because of the economy, a lot of the people were losing their houses and felt like they had no other options. Then there were people who had mistreated their animals or simply got tired of them. They weren't cute puppies anymore and hadn't been trained so they had issues. I had one guy who wrote me and said that if we didn't come get his dog in 30 minutes he would shoot it. One of our volunteers rushed down in the car and saved the dog, who was wonderful and was eventually adopted to a great home.

I'm trying to make a few points.

1. You have a pet. You have a responsibility. These pets can't take care of themselves. If you have an animal that you don't want anymore, taking it to the shelter isn't the solution. The Humane Society DOESN'T WANT YOUR ANIMAL. There's no room. The shelter isn't a happy field where animals run around and hug each other.

Here are stats from 1997 from the Humane Society website. The euthanasia stats have increased DRAMATICALLY since the recession, to the point where stats aren't even recordable:

  • Of the 1,000 shelters that replied to the National Council's survey, 4.3 million animals were handled.
  • In 1997, roughly 64 percent of the total number of animals that entered shelters were euthanized -- approximately 2.7 million animals in just these 1,000 shelters. These animals may have been euthanized due to overcrowding, but may also have been sick, aggressive, injured or suffering from something else.
  • 56 percent of dogs and 71 percent of cats that enter animal shelters are euthanized. More cats are euthanized than dogs because they are more likely to enter a shelter without any owner identification.
  • Only 15 percent of dogs and 2 percent of cats that enter animal shelters are reunited with their owners.
  • 25 percent of dogs and 24 percent of cats that enter animal shelters are adopted.
It is estimated that approximately 3.7 million animals were euthanized in the nation’s shelters in 2008. This number represents a generally accepted statistic that is widely used by many animal welfare organizations, including the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (ASPCA).

2. Pet stores are not responsible. Google "Puppy Mills".
3. My parents have always gotten their dogs from a breeder to show them (in dog shows). I don't hate my parents, and I don't hate you if you got your dog from a breeder. I do always prefer that people adopt from a shelter. If you are going to buy a purebred dog and are set on getting it from a breeder, go to the breeder's house and see the living conditions. Find out about past litters. Papers mean nothing. Don't perpetuate bad behavior.

Thanks for reading my PSA - I promise to talk about happier things in my next post.

MISSING: Jennifer Kesse

I read this on Blonde in a Blog's site and thought it was really important to re-post. Hug your sisters a little harder tonight.

MISSING: Jennifer Kesse

I have spoken to some great friends, and other bloggers about being a guest blogger..I have a lot of really funny friends, including my Alpha Phi sisters.  But, then I was reading Melissa's blog and knew what I needed to do.  Sobbing with tears streaming down my cheeks, I wrote her asking her to be a guest on my blog.  As a mother and daughter, I wept for her parents. As a sister, I cried and put myself in Melissa's shoes thinking about my own sisters.  My girls have been through everything with me-some people will say that with sororities you pay for friends, it is not like that.  Those girls, my sisters are my very best friends in the world.  They are more than just friends, they are just as much sisters to me as if they were my biological ones.  So please, if you are a mom, a dad, a brother, a sister, a friend, a daughter, a husband, a wife, a kid, an adult, a SISTER---read this from Melissa and do one thing today to try to bring Jennifer back...

"Four years ago today, January 24, 2006, my friend and sorority sister Jennifer Kesse was abducted. Within hours of not arriving at work that day, Jenn's family realized something was wrong. Phone calls to Jenn went unanswered. Police were notified, signs were made and by 4:00 p.m., the search had officially begun. It has not ended.

Four birthdays and four Christmases have gone by and Jenn's family is still without answers. They go to bed each night not knowing what has happened to their daughter, their sister, their best friend. They wonder if they'll ever see her again. But someone knows. Someone knows what happened to Jenn that day. And I hope every day that someone will find the courage to come forward and give Jenn's family the answers they so desperately need and want.
Despite the passage of four years, Jenn's case is active and Orlando police continue to receive tips and follow leads. Hope remains for the miracle of her safe return. A new reward of $1,000,000.00 has been posted for Jenn's SAFE RETURN.

Awareness is key to bringing Jenn home. Please take a minute to visit the website dedicated to the search for Jenn -

I share this story primarily to spread awareness about Jenn's abduction and to aid in the search. But also as a reminder for us all. We all think "It won't happen to me or someone I know" or "This couldn't happen in my neighborhood." But it can.

While you can't live your life in fear, you can take precautions for your own safey. Lock your doors, be aware of your surroundings, and ask someone to walk you to your car in the dark. Don't run alone at night or sit alone in a parked car and always approach your car or door with keys ready. Make sure people are aware of your routine so that they know if something has gone wrong. These are small steps you can take every day to keep yourself safe. More can be found here. Jenn is smart and took many, if not all, of these same precautions. While they didn't prevent her abduction, they could protect another woman from harm."

Thursday, January 28, 2010

Gaucho Pants are Coming Back in Style

Just because you work from home doesn't mean you need to always look awful. You don't always need to wear an old college shirt and Christmas print pajama pants. These are things I'm slowly learning. I'm also learning that gaucho pants are EVERYWHERE.

Ok, gaucho pants get a bad rap. I love my gaucho pants from college, ok? I wouldn't wear them to work, or on a date, or to the moon, but I love wearing them around the house or running errands. I'm not afraid to admit it. Love them.

There's a ton of stores that offer loungewear, which is like a happy medium between normal people clothes and pajamas. My husband may think that I spend my days at home working in lingerie. I do. (HUSBAND, STOP READING).

Ok, I really don't, and I'd like to start dressing slightly better for when the UPS man comes to my door. Here's some incentive to looking presentable while still being comfortable.

I actually don't know if I'd wear this, but I'd give it a shot. I have a super satin cute romper from VS that I love, and this has potential to be adorable. Or a potato sack.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Wordless Thursday

And yes, I thought it was Wednesday, but apparently it's already Thursday, and I'd already posted my pics. C'est la vie!

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

You've Got Mail - Meg Ryan Style

Since You've Got Mail has literally been on every single day (not that I'm complaining), I started creating some style boards based on her outfits. It's been raining here every day, which makes these New York-style clothes look even more appealing.
You've Got Mail - Work

You've Got Mail - Bookshop

Dinner Party - You've Got Mail

You've Got Mail 1

"I like to start my notes to you as if we're already in the middle of a conversation. I pretend that we're the oldest and dearest friends- as opposed to what we actually are- people who don't know each other's names and met in a chat room where we both claimed we'd never been before. What will NY152 say today, I wonder. I turn on my computer, I wait impatiently as it boots up. I go online, and my breath catches in my chest until I hear three little words: You've got mail. I hear nothing, not even a sound on the streets of New York, just the beat of my own heart. I have mail. From you."

Saturday, January 16, 2010

Comfy Day Uniform

When I'm not feeling well or I'm running out the door and am just active enough to throw on clothes and not just a jump suit, I throw on my "uniform". Clothes that feel comfortable enough to ALMOST be pajamas, but passable to be around in public.

Today is the first day in a week that I actually put on clothes. Not just yoga pants and a top and Ugg boots, but real clothes. It was an accomplishment, even if no one saw.

Anyway, here's my favorite comfy day uniform.


1. Gatorade
2. Hudson Wide Leg Jeans (most comfortable jeans of all time)
3. Black razor back tank top
4. Jersey Cardigan
5. Tory Burch Revas
6. JCrew Squirrel Bracelet
7. York Peppermint Patties (If I'm not feeling good this will always cheer me up!)
8. Glasses (my must-have item)

InStyler Giveaway

I know I've posted about the magic that seems to be the InStyler, and the fabulous Miss Blonde Walks Into a Blog is giving one away!

Check out her site for more details, or just follow her because her blog is pure comedy

Click here to enter.

Warm Wedding Wear

My very dear friends (BecomingMrs.Ford) are getting married in Palm Springs this March. Mr. Bee has already had his outfit picked out for a year. He was determined to wear a seersucker suit, and darned if he isn't.

I on the other hand, have no clue what I'm going to wear. My issue is that I have awful heat intolerance, so I'll need to wear something very lightweight and breezy without looking like a tramp, and then be able to pair it with something at night so I don't freeze.

Palm Springs

I was thinking about wearing the Lily Pulitzer Sandpiper dress, but I think it might be a bit too casual.

Fortunately I still have a bit of time before finding something to wear. Any suggestions are appreciated (especially with all the sales going on!).

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Guilty Pleasures of the Week

Counting how many times Paula Deen says "butter" in 30 minutes. Bless her heart.

Tila Tequila's Twitter. I know, it's so wretched, but I seriously can't stop reading the madness.

My dog's silly posing. And old man noises. I can't get enough of her.

Marie Callendar's cornbread. Yes, I made it from a mix. Yes, it is awesome.

Pants on the Ground. I can't get enough of this song!! I don't care if it is a publicity stunt, the guy deserves a record. I would love this as my ringtone.

Sunday, January 10, 2010

Culture Sunday

Just started reading this book and I can't put it down. If you like Chelsea Handler or Dave Eggars, you will love this book: I've seriously laughed out loud 6 times tonight and my husband is looking at me concerned.

I also have Have a Little Faith, The Help, What Southern Women Know about Faith, The Shack, Happiness is Sold Separately, What Would Jackie Do, and Gone With the Wind. Seriously, it was on MEGA CLEARANCE at $5, hidden under a table, calling my name. I couldn't just leave it there! So they all came home and as soon as my brain fog is gone I can't wait to sit on my couch, in my Snuggie, and read them all. BTW - Snuggie is coming up as misspelled. When does Snuggie enter the Mirriam-Webster Dictionary? I'm guessing soon.

Oh, and the best music to listen to while you're reading. This week for me it's Kings of Convenience. You can actually  listen to the whole album for free here

If you like similar music, I have some amazing Pandora stations I can recommend. I'm always so proud of the "mixes" I put together on there. And then there's always the stragglers that somehow make it through and NO, I DIDN'T WANT ASHLEY TISDALE IN MY INDIE ROCK, but then you dislike and the world is normal again. Thank god.  I was toying with the idea of organizing a mix-tape swap, but I think most people have negative things to say about swaps. If you're interested, let me know, and I'll work to set it up if enough people want to.

Well happy impending Monday - I think this week has got to be even better than last week.

Saturday, January 9, 2010

Where Am I?

I know, I'm being an awful blogger!! I had a really rough week health-wise and just haven't been inspired by much.

Here are some things that have gotten me through the week:

- My A+++++ HUSBAND!! He's sacrificed so much for me and been the best nurse I could ask for. He's literally seen me at my worst and still puts up with me, and I'm so thankful for him.
- Gatorade. My lifeline.
- Netflix Instant - We've been watching a LOST Season 5 marathon before the new season starts. Love that it just pops up on your TV!
- - I ordered a bunch of books I'm really excited to read - perfect for when I can't make it to the bookstore.
- iPhone Kindle - I NEVER thought I'd enjoy Kindle. I love books. The way they smell, feel - just love them. I also love my iPhone, and the fact that I can read large-print books without bringing them around with me. I just started reading The Shack and I'm really enjoying it so far.