Monday, April 14, 2014

3D Ultrasound

Our surrogate surprised me this past weekend by coming down for my baby shower. We had a 3D ultrasound done before the shower, and if was the most amazing experience. I recommend everyone gets one if they're able to. I know that for me and Mr. Bee, it made everything incredibly real. You can tell he has Mr. Bee's ears, my nose (sorry baby!), and a whole bunch of cuteness.

I know it's cliche, but I love this boy so much. I look at his pictures and my heart actually hurts from loving him so much. I would already do anything for him, and let's face it, he's the cutest baby of all time.

Aidan: We are so excited to meet you in a few weeks. We've waited so long for you to join our family, and the wait was worth it. We needed to find the perfect person to help you become a reality, and we're so grateful that Aimee was meant to help us have you.

I can't wait to look at your face all day, kiss those chubby cheeks, and be the best mama for you. With those looks, I hope to somehow have 10 more brothers and sisters for you one day.

I love you, and we're already the most proud parents in the world.

Thursday, February 13, 2014

There's a Crib in my....Crib

We were so excited today to get the crib delivered! I ran home from work to make sure I was there just as the delivery guy pulled up. Mr. Bee also wanted to be here when the crib came, which was an adorable cute moment when he came through the door.

I think he was a little disappointed to see that it didn't come fully assembled and ready to put a baby in, but now we have fun weekend projects ahead!

We were fortunate enough to have the furniture purchased from my mom and Mr. Bee's mom and grandma. Actually getting the furniture was a bit more difficult than I thought it would be. This was the way my conversation went down with the delivery company:

::Me returning a message::
Me: Hi, I'm returning a message I received about a delivery.

Delivery Company: Who did you speak to?
Me: Alicia.
Delivery Company: There's no way you could have spoken to Alicia. She hasn't been here FOR A DAY! (In all honesty, I was expecting the horror movie response where Alicia called from beyond the grave.)

Me: Yes, she called me yesterday. I just wanted to set up a delivery time?
::Delivery Company places me on hold::
Delivery Company: Ok, when do you want us to deliver the package.
Me: I'm sorry, I'm not sure what the package is.
Delivery Company: Well I don't know what the package is! What's your tracking number?

::Gives tracking number::
Delivery Company: It's something from Toys R Us.
Me: Great! I think it's the crib!

Delivery Company: Ok, when do you want it delivered?
Me: Do you happen to do evenings or weekends?
Delivery Company: No.
Me: Are you usually good about getting here around the time you say you will since I'll be at work?
Delivery Company: Absolutely not. (Really??)
Me: How about Thursday?

Delivery Company: Ok, we'll be there sometime between morning and late afternoon.

Well, ok then. 

The great part is that the crib is physically here now, and may one day resemble a crib our son will sleep in, and not a giant box. This is all so exciting!

In addition to all of this exciting-ness, we've been enjoying getting videos and photos from Aimee of our little guy growing and kicking around! Since we're not physically close, this is definitely the next best thing. They make everything seem so real, and I am so appreciative that she sends these to us so we can see our son grow up!

All belly, no toes!

All happy things to report here. We really are so incredibly blessed!

Friday, January 17, 2014

Portland Trip - 20 Week Ultrasound

We’d been planning to go to Portland for the 20-week A/S ultrasound, and were so excited to have an opportunity to spend time with our surrogate and her family, see our baby, and explore Portland.

We arrived on Saturday afternoon, and after getting settled we met up with some of our friends who showed us the city. I’m not kidding when I say that I literally ate my way through Portland, but everything was so good. Fortunately, we did a ton of walking, so I’m hoping that justifies some of what was eaten. I think we hit all of the touristy foods including Voodoo Doughnuts, Salt & Straw Ice Cream, and even sampled the food trucks. By the way, I’ve never seen so many food trucks in my life. We got coffee one day from a truck and the barista made me a Pine Latte, which was made with simple syrup that he created with pine needles from a tree in his yard. Talk about daring dining!
Exploring With My Pine Latte

On Sunday night, we met up with Aimee and were able to spend time with her entire family at dinner. They are truly such amazing people. Her four boys are polite, well-behaved, and have incredible senses of humor and adventure. We had a great time joking around with her husband, and just had the best time with all of them. I was so thankful to be able to spend time with them and really felt like we were all part of a huge, happy family. It’s so important to have the support of your family while you go through surrogacy, and it’s truly a blessing to be connected to this them.
We met at the hospital on Monday for the A/S appointment. I had no idea before going into the appointment that it would be done by a tech and not a doctor, and was really surprised when I asked how everything looked that she wasn’t able to tell me. I completely understand that she didn’t want to give me any wrong information, but when someone has gone through as much as my husband and I have to finally make it to this point and have someone scanning our baby’s brain, I was really just hoping for a thumbs up or a smile to reassure me. The ultrasound is very in-depth and we were able to spend about an hour looking at our little guy and watching him move around.

Hello World!
After the ultrasound, we were able to take a tour of the hospital and the labor and delivery floor. It’s crazy to think that we’ll be there in just a few short months! Everyone was so nice and patient with us, and very understanding about surrogacy. If they have enough room, they’ll even let the intended parents have their own room that the baby can sleep in overnight with them. I get excited just thinking about having our baby just an arm’s length away from me, getting ready to come home with us.
Me and Aimee at the Hospital
Aimee and I said our goodbyes, and Otter Pop and I headed for the airport, where we’d spend the next 6 hours while waiting for our delayed flight. After getting back, I got a text that the ultrasound tech wasn’t able to get all of the photos needed of his heart, and Aimee had to go back again for a repeat ultrasound. Turns out that he’s a stubborn guy and wouldn’t get into a good position, which is common during the A/S ultrasound. For me, this was an excuse to freak out. I waited nervously until this week to find out that everything was A-OK, and Aidan is actually almost a full pound! I’m so relieved to find out that he’s doing well.
We truly had an amazing time in Portland and I can’t wait to go back soon to spend more time with Aimee and continue getting excited that our little one will be here before we know it!

Friday, December 20, 2013

What's in a name?

Even though I was convinced we were having a boy, I hadn’t given much thought to choosing a boy name. We’ve had our girl name picked out for a few years, and boy names always seemed so much harder to choose. Adding to that pressure is the fact that you’re naming a person, a person who will use that name their whole life, and the stress is even greater.
Otter Pop and I looked at every name website and baby name forum out there. I really liked usingNymbler (great for name suggestions based on names you already like, NameBerry for more unique name ideas, and The Bump Name Forum.  We wanted something that wasn’t too unique, would be hard to make fun of, easy to yell at a soccer game, and had meaning to us. So after a lot of soul-searching, we came up with his name.

Baby Sea Otter’s First Ornament
We decided on Aidan James. Aidan is Irish and means, “little fire,” and judging from how active he was during his ultrasound, we’re sure we’ll have our hands full. Aidan also incorporates the first two letters of our surrogate’s name, which makes it even more special to us. James is a family name, and makes it easy if our son wants to go by A.J.
There was some back-and-forth over choosing one of the more popular names of the year, but I think the specialness of the name will outweigh a few people who could possibly have the same name in his class. I had many other Katie’s in my classes over the years and was actually always excited to meet with someone who had the same name. Maybe that’s just me though.
How did you come up with your child’s name? Does it have any special meaning for you?

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Elective Ultrasound

I was so excited to see our little guy this weekend via an elective ultrasound! Aimee was great enough to fly down so we could see how much he’s grown since the last time we saw him in person at the 9-week ultrasound. Aimee and I usually FaceTime during appointments, but the ultrasound quality at her appointments is a much lower quality, and we were hoping to get some good photos that we could share with the grandparents and great-grandparents. Most people do an elective ultrasound around this time so they can find out the gender, but since we already knew the gender from the blood test, we were able to just enjoy seeing him.

We arrived at the ultrasound clinic and were ushered into a room filled with plush couches and a big-screen TV that broadcast the ultrasound images.
For Watching Ultrasounds, or Sunday Football

The tech was able to find him immediately, and I teared up when I saw how big he was! He was so active, kicking his legs and moving his arms like he was waving. They did checks on all of his bones to make sure he was growing well, counted his fingers and toes, and checked to make sure that he was still a boy (he certainly is!). I was able to FaceTime with both of my parents who were so excited to see their grandson moving around.
Since I’m not the one who is pregnant, these appointments make everything feel so much more real to me, and are a huge comfort that things are going well. I love hearing that for once, everything is normal and our baby is healthy.
Baby Sea Otter’s 17 Week Ultrasound Photo
After the ultrasound, Aimee and I grabbed breakfast and then spent the rest of the day getting pedicures and just hanging out. We are so fortunate to have found a surrogate that we get along with so well and truly feels like another family member. I probably say this a lot, but I can’t even express how grateful I am.
Post Pedicures!
Our next big appointment is in January, where we’ll travel up to Portland for the 20-week appointment. A few people asked whether or not we’d be doing a 3D or 4D ultrasound. We did a basic 2D ultrasound because at 17 weeks, the baby still looks really skinny and a bit alien-esque. We wanted to wait to do a 3D ultrasound until around 30-34 weeks, when you can actually see the baby’s facial features. I think having the 3D ultrasound to use as a comparison when your baby is older is pretty cool. And I’m a huge fan of technology. Just another thing to look forward to!
Did any of you do elective ultrasounds? If so, when did you have yours done?

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Making Things Official

It took a long time for me to feel comfortable telling people about our pregnancy. Because we’ve been through so much loss, I was afraid to let people know what was going on until later than many people announce their pregnancy. Our immediate family however, was different. Our parents knew from the first positive HPT test so they could support us either way. With friends and work colleagues, we decided to wait until after we got results from our MaterniT21 test, which is a test that detects chromosomal abnormalities, and has the added bonus of detecting gender as early as 12 weeks. Since a lot of the first trimester screening can give false positives when it comes to birth defects, we wanted to have as much assurance as possible that our baby would be healthy before telling the world our good news.

I got the call I had been anxiously awaiting while I was at work, and was so relieved to hear the doctor tell us that they were 99% sure that there were no chromosomal birth defects. I had been praying that there would be no problems, and was so relieved by the great news I almost forgot to ask about the gender. When she told me that we were having a little boy, I was thrilled! I had felt the whole pregnancy that we’d be having a boy, so I was happy my instincts were right. People would often ask me what my preference would be, and I would always reply that I’d be completely happy either way. Having a healthy baby has always been the only thing I’d ever been concerned about.
Baby Sea Otter’s First Outfit
I called Otter Pop to let him know the good news, and then we decided how we’d tell our parents. I think gender reveal parties are cute, but we’ve personally never felt that was something we’d want to do. So that option was out. My parents live out of town, and his mom who lives in town was visiting relatives, so we schemed for a while and decided that we’d get a boy outfit, then FaceTime our parents to share the news. After getting an outfit, we called his mom and tried to FaceTime her, but the call wouldn’t go through. We called and told her to FaceTime, and learned that she had an old iPhone, and so did everyone else in the house, so we couldn’t FaceTime. Foiled by first world problems! So we did the next best thing and called her while sending her a text with the photo. We waited on the phone with her for 10 minutes while this text went through, and she finally learned that she’d be having a grandson! Not the grand surprise we’d been hoping for, but we were just happy to give her the good news.
We were planning on calling my parents first since my mom had been asking if we’d had news, but learned that she had a meeting she’d be at till 10pm. At the ripe old age of 30, I’m usually in bed by then, but I fought through the sleepiness to FaceTime with my parents and let them know they were having a grandson. Boy, technology is great when you’re not able to be there in person with your family for everything.
After our families knew, we did the next most important thing: Make it Facebook official. Because news just isn’t official until it’s Facebook official. We had taken this photo at Disneyland during our anniversary trip a few weeks earlier, and since we’d gotten engaged at Disneyland, it was only right that we announce our happy news at the happiest place on earth.
How far along were you when you told people you were pregnant?

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Blog Merger

Between writing on this blog (which is admittedly rare these days), writing on Waiting for Bee, and blogging for HelloBee, my posts have been pretty scattered. I decided to merge my two blogs into this one, which means a backlog of posts about my fertility treatments and what we've gone through to finally be lucky enough to be expecting. 

Waiting for Bee + Bees and Bows = MEGA Bees and BOWS!

Blogging has always been cathartic to me, and I hope that I enjoy blogging now that I'm streamlining all of my blogging outlets. Thanks for sticking with me! 
My Photo
I am basically just Phoebe from Friends. I love pumpkins, books, my two adorable, funny dogs and two adorably, funny cats. I love my husband, who allows me to live off of a diet of Chipotle, Diet Coke, and York Peppermint Patties. I would love to live inside Anthropologie, but will settle for Portland.
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